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She’s basically calling me a liar or suggesting that she can handle him a lot better than I can.I know that my ex will only bring her pain, and I already voiced that opinion dozens of times to her.She chose a brand new relationship over a five-year friendship.With her actions, my best friend told me that men are more important than friendships. My best friend has been with me through some of the worst experiences of my life, so this feels like a punch in the gut.I understand that she’s in the honeymoon phase, but given the complicated nature of her relationship, it would be nice to have her check in to make sure I’m doing OK.I feel like all she wanted from me was a green light for the sake of her conscious, and now she’s closed the book on that issue. In the limited communication I’ve had with my best friend, she continuously mentions my ex and the things he does for her. One, it shows that, once again, she doesn’t care about my feelings, but on another level, it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me.As my closest female friend, she should have approached me from the first moment he messaged her and asked if I’d be OK with them talking.
She’s making me question my entire relationship with my ex. I’m glad he’s out of my life, except now I can’t help but wonder if he was dating me to get to my best friend the whole time. I know my best friend would have told me if he was hitting on her while we were still together, but what if I was an unwitting pawn in his game?
I wonder if she ever valued my friendship as much as I valued hers. It’s sad to see I invested in the wrong friendship. My confidence in both men and women has been broken.
The fact that two people that I had such faith in could hurt me like this makes me want to curl up into a ball and never leave the house. I know that there are better men and friends out there for me.
The relationship lasted for about 6 months (I think) and years later, I’ve come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend.
I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. There are a few different instances that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out “my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend.