Dating signs hes not into you
A guy who isn't super into you will avoid making even little plans."Even small things like what you might do the following weekend can be a big deal if he's not that into you. Fisher adds that even if you do try to talk about the longer-term future, he'll be super vague: "If you notice his comments around long-term plans together for your life become nebulous, then he may not be that into you."Another serious sign that he might not be that into you is if he's inconsistent and secretive with his words and actions.
He'll avoid the subject and try to talk about anything else... Preece says if his behavior is often totally different from what he told you it would be or what he previously said, this isn't a good sign: "He tells you he's gone to bed for an early night, but you can see he's active on social media until the early hours.
That said, sometimes you end up in a situation where someone seemed really cool at first, but as time went on, you felt like you mattered less and less to them.
In this case, you may have found yourself with the dreaded serial dater: the guy who likes to go on a few dates and then quickly pulls back his interest.
"When communication during the date suffers, so does the depth of connection that can be created, keeping it on a surface level with no chance of going further than just two having fun on dates, which is prime serial dater behavior.”Simply put, to discern whether he might be a serial dater, you should look to whether he's serial-dated women a lot in the past.
"If he has a history of jumping from one relationship to the next without long-term commitments, then he probably will do the same with you," says Dr. If you feel like you're unsure, it's one of the easiest things to do to ask him about prior relationships.
"If he's leading you on, then ultimately he's lying to you, intentionally or otherwise. Fisher adds that a serial dater who isn't that into you will keep you removed from certain parts of his life, as well: "If you notice he keeps part of his thoughts/life private from you and doesn't fully open up, he may not be that into you."If a man is leading you on and isn't that into you, that won't keep him from saying exactly what you're looking for... The other part of the time, he'll just disappear."If he's a womanizer, then he knows exactly what to do and say to get you interested.
"Whatever else happens, always trust your gut," says Preece.
"If you have any sort of niggling feeling something isn't right, and it won't go away, it's often because there's an issue.
So there'll be times when he'll pay you lots of compliments or pretend he thinks you are amazing," Preece says.
That said, the romance won't last forever: "There's something missing and it ends as quickly as it starts."Thomas Edwards, relationship expert and founder of The Professional Wingman, adds that if he's just leading you on, he'll disappear for long periods of time in between dates and may even be not super communicative during them."When there's a lack of communication in between dates other than locking in logistics, it shows there's little desire to create a connection that can withstand the physical distance you two share," says Edwards.
"If you start noticing you're putting more effort into the relationship and staying connected [more] than he is, then he may not be that into you," says Dr. James Preece, dating guru and relationship expert agrees, and says a tell-tale sign of this will be that whenever you'd like to see him, he's not free.